Roles

I had dinner the other night with a good friend of mine, Sarah VG (whose nickname may become VG because of the other Sarah's in my life). I am so thankful that I got to spend some good quality time with her. She is in the same exact place as me, and that makes it very easy to talk to her about life, because she gets it. She knows what it is like to be in this stage of our lives.

One of the MANY topics we covered that night was how intimidating girls can be in their twenties. For the most part, girls have it together. We have stable jobs, we live on our own - either in a house or an apartment, we have friends, and family that we hang out with, we are involved in church. We are confident in ourselves because we have it all together - and that intimidates guys. Think about a relationship, and what the guy and girl brings to it - girls have to be both in order to survive. We have to handle the emotional side of things, as well as the financial side. We can't afford to be lax in either. We take care of the bills, we clean and fix parts of the house, we also handle the emotional side with our friends and with ourselves. We have so much to juggle, but we do it because of necessity!

Guys don't realize that underneath all that confidence, is a girl who is asking for help. We don't want to handle all the roles that we do! We are more than willing to have a guy in our life, and for us to say "here you go" and let them take over their piece. Right now, we just don't have that luxury. Guys don't see that though - they see a girl who has it all and they say "she's intimidating", and they go after the girls who don't have it all together. In the meantime, we go on with our lives, we buy houses, we buy cars, we fix our plumbing issues, we take care of the bills until a guy comes around and says "here, let me help you" and they take it over.

Sarah also had a great point that she heard somewhere - the feminist movement has weakened guys. I have no problem admitting the fact that there are things guys are better at. God designed it that way, He said that the woman is to be submissive to her husband, and he is to be the head of the family. The feminist movement made women take some roles from the men, which then weakened them. They no longer had to step up to their role, because women were doing it for them. I find this down right annoying. I'm a girl who is looking for a man to step up and BE THE MAN! I do not want a "wuss" of a guy, I want someone who isn't afraid to lead, to take control. Someone who follows the Lord proudly and confidently - that kind of man I have no problem being submissive to.

Until that day comes, I will be confident in who God made me, in the plans He has for my life, and wait patiently for the day when MY MAN looks past my confidence, stops being intimidated, and asks me out.